Christian Marriage - a Cord of 3 Strands

God’s Word and power provide us with everything we need for happy, godly, and fulfilling lives in every area (2Timothy 3:17; 2Peter 1:3; John 10:10).  The area of marriage is crucial.  If your marriage is not going well, serious spiritual problems will also be present.  Indeed, Christian marriage is one area in which disciples of Christ will dramatically outshine the many worldly examples surrounding them.

God's Plan:

Genesis 2:24; Proverbs 18:22

Marriage meets many of our deepest needs.


1Corinthians 7:39

Marry a Christian.


Matthew 19:9

Marriage is for life.


Proverbs 15:22

Take advice!


Worldly vs. Spiritual Marriages:


Spend time together (meals, spiritual talks, unscheduled time).


Listen to one another.


Express, don’t suppress, feelings.


Do not fester resentments (Colossians 3:13)


Coordinate schedules.


Communication may increase conflict.  Expect it, but don’t avoid it.  Learn to work through things in a godly way.  Get help if you can’t resolve a disagreement.


Do not be harsh.  Serve one another and be considerate (Colossians 3:19).


Help with the housework and caring for children (1Peter 3:7).


Do not nag (Proverbs 21:19; 25:24; 27:15).


Submit to one another (Colossians 3:18; 1Peter 3:1-6)


Husband should lead spiritually (Ephesians 5:22-33)

Hospitality is God’s will (1Peter 4:9).  Use your home to invite others in.  Do not be selfish in your relationship and with what God has blessed you with.  Hospitality is a great evangelistic tool (1Timothy 3:4).  Keep your home tidy and inviting (Proverbs 24:30-34)


Talk about spiritual things when together.


Pray together daily.


Don’t “protect” each other when there is lukewarmness or compromise (Acts 5:1-11)


Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15)


Don’t deprive one another (1Corinthians 7:5)


Remember the special touches – cards, flowers, gifts, surprises, etc.


Be open to input always.  Every marriage needs counseling from time-to-time.



  • Pray together every day.

  • Share your faith together.

  • Share Quiet Times periodically.

  • Work on the church classes together.  Expect the best about each other.

  • Spend time showing your love for each other and really communicating.

  • Read and discuss 1Corinthians 13.

  • Read “Song of Songs” to one another (Lover and Beloved parts)

  • Pray to study the Bible with a couple together.

  • Dates

  • Discuss schedules.

  • Plan an overnight trip together (without the children)

  • Read a great book on marriage and discuss it.